Women are fascinating. The highs and lows of hormones often leave us victim to unpredictable days. The problem: We slip easily into victim mentality when we aren't fulfilled by life. To fill our void we allow ourselves to be filled by whatever comes easy...food, alcohol, toxic relationships, etc. When we are in victim mentality, we don’t see the range of choices we have and we wallow in resentment. We feel helpless.The solution: In order to eliminate our victim mentality, we must:
1. Start by accepting the reality of the situation instead of trying to achieve an unrealistic ideal.
2. Find the best choice available within the reality of the circumstances, and then
3. Accept that choice instead of resenting it.
Victims live in fear. They make excuses for their lives. They hide to make themselves secure. They make up irrational ideas to help them cope with their circumstances. They shut out relationships and turn to addictions to keep themselves numb. Victims don't always consciously choose to live this way, it is simply how they have survived their life experiences. We all have a story with a history and a plot, with tragedy and triumph. Have you been a victim to the story of your life, just letting life happen without any intent or goals, or are you embracing the story with all its highs and lows and forging ahead toward what you need regardless of what standards and ideals the media and social pressures may expect from you?
Let's face it. Life is not easy. We have to make the best of our individual experience. Which means that killing ourselves to try to fit into a size 6 jeans may not be what is best for our lives. It might feel good for a a moment when or if you can reach the goal, but only if it can help you to live a more balanced, healthy, and joyful life.
How will you embrace your story? What do you need to help you make your story more enriching and vibrant?
For more information about how you can connect with community and overcome feeling like a victim in your health and wellness program, read more about the H.E.A.L. program.
